365 Days of Writing

November 05th: Intense


Describe the last time you were surprised by the intensity of a feeling you had about something, or were surprised at how strongly you reacted to something you thought wouldn’t be a big deal.

I dislike surprises, so I am rarely ever surprised.

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Books & Reviews 📚

Book #75: Don’t Bring Home A White Boy. And Other Notions That Keep Black Women From Dating Out.

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In Don’t Bring Home a White Boy, writer Karyn Langhorne Folan debunks the myths about interracial relationships. Drawing on real-life testimonials, she boldly tackles this difficult subject with warmth, humor, and understanding, as she explores stereotypes of black female sexuality and white male perspectives on black female beauty.

Folan goes beyond statistics and offers firsthand insights on her own interracial relationship and attempts to tap into a woman’s desire to have all that they deserve instead of restricting themselves, simply because they want a “good black man.” Frank, authoritative, and universally relevant, her message to women is to look beyond skin color, accept themselves for who they are, and seek a man who truly loves them, regardless of race.

Author: Karyn Langhorne Folan 
Publisher: Karen Hunter Publishing (2010)
Pages: 248

But I like white boys! They’re amazing, they’re beautiful, they’re funny, they light up my world, they’re life!

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via CoolChaser

Oh, right, this is a review. 🙂

When I took this book to work, people looked at the cover and then at me judgementally. Some simply went, “Oh,” while some looked me in the eyes and slyly grinned, “I never knew you liked white men!” I then had to point out the rest of the accompanying title that didn’t stand out so much to the judging public. I had fun with this book cover because I enjoyed the public’s reaction.

This book was written with the black American women in mind. The author encourages the reader to keep an open mind when it comes to exploring relationships and debunked the myths of black women. The author tackled issues such as domestic abuse, racism, sexism, multiracial children etc.

Karyn also talks about black women doing it for themselves especially Michelle Obama and Beyoncé. Yes, sure, Bey be doing it as a black woman, but then she takes her clothes off and becomes an object of sexual gratification just like everyone else all in the name of girl power. I’d rather be a Proverbs 31 woman than a sensual gyrating siren whoring out my body and soul in front of millions all in the name of the girl power agenda.

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Some of the interracial couples shared their stories with the author and I liked that. Some met online and they’re still going strong. I don’t like online meetings given out most of them turn out in the end, but I’m glad that I read happy accounts in this book and I support interracial couples. ❤

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The author also touched on how a European man sees a black woman *rolls eyes* sorry, I meant the black American woman: an American first, a woman after, black last.

Women who shared their stories encouraged other black women to travel especially to Europe. I’ve always wanted to visit Paris, well, the whole of France and although I’m saving the money it’s never enough and then something pops up and I have to dip into the savings. I keep chanting, ‘One day Paris. One day for you and me.’ So I read every book there is on Paris; mostly travel accounts and I am learning French… well, I am always learning the most beautiful language that ever existed!

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We will not conquer racism in this time and age. Just look at football! We can fight it, but conquering it fully is still a long way off. For every racist sentiment we fight, there is a racist out there making things triple times worse.

So yes, in a sense, the book was written with the black American woman in mind, but every black woman can learn a thing or two from it. Just keep an open mind when it comes to relationships outside of your normal brother for you never know where love is waiting for you.

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the author and her husband 🙂




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The Hit by David Baldacci